The implications and ramifications.

[X-Spectre]

It was totally my suggestion. She is willing to do a guy or a girl. Whichever i prefer. She has no lesbian tendencies. She did say she would prefer a female. From my point of view, im taken back by her willingness to please me. This is totally not her character. I have gradually got her to come out pf her shell over the past 8 yrs.

That was what we were keying on Maj, if it seems out of character then there might be something else at play. I thought you said you turned it down and now you're saying it was totally your idea??? I must be confused...

[Majesty9917]

That was what we were keying on Maj, if it seems out of character then there might be something else at play. I thought you said you turned it down and now you're saying it was totally your idea??? I must be confused...

Sorry, let me explain better. We were talking about a few people we know in the neighborhood that were getting down like this. So i did what i do, which is try to push the envelope. I said "we should do that" she laughed it off and i said im serious....etc. Until i got to the point that she said if it is something i really wanted and it would make me happy she would do it for my bday with a guy of my choosing. She went further to say she would rather it be a female if she were going to do it.

So as i said this is all my doing. I got her to say yes after a good bit of fast talking. I then went back on what i said and sent her the text i posted. So my reason for posting was to see if this is indeed a rare opportunity that i should give more thought to or did i make the right call? Obviously its all opinion but thats fine with me.

[X-Spectre]

Sorry, let me explain better. We were talking about a few people we know in the neighborhood that were getting down like this. So i did what i do, which is try to push the envelope. I said "we should do that" she laughed it off and i said im serious....etc. Until i got to the point that she said if it is something i really wanted and it would make me happy she would do it for my bday with a guy of my choosing. She went further to say she would rather it be a female if she were going to do it.

So as i said this is all my doing. I got her to say yes after a good bit of fast talking. I then went back on what i said and sent her the text i posted. So my reason for posting was to see if this is indeed a rare opportunity that i should give more thought to or did i make the right call? Obviously its all opinion but thats fine with me.

That's clearer and, IMO at least, good decision. The potential to damage or destroy your marriage is too great for whatever thrill you might get out of it. I'm still concerned that she gave in at all, that's VERY unusual for a woman in a happy marriage that hasn't had swinging as part of that marriage from the beginning and you say it's out of character for her too, I hate to say this and maybe make more out of it than it is but you might want to take a good look at things, I'd hate worse for you to get blindsided when you think everything is ok.

[Majesty9917]

That's clearer and, IMO at least, good decision. The potential to damage or destroy your marriage is too great for whatever thrill you might get out of it. I'm still concerned that she gave in at all, that's VERY unusual for a woman in a happy marriage that hasn't had swinging as part of that marriage from the beginning and you say it's out of character for her too, I hate to say this and maybe make more out of it than it is but you might want to take a good look at things, I'd hate worse for you to get blindsided when you think everything is ok.

I appreciate your concern bro. By nature i always see the negative in any situation. I have been cheated on in the past. I know the signs. I am also surprised that she said yes. Two thoughts about that though. First, big difference between saying yes and sucking some other dude off while im watching. Lol i mean that whole scene sounds absurd. Two im taking it as a testament to how strong our relationship is that she would even entertain the idea.

[X-Spectre]

I appreciate your concern bro. By nature i always see the negative in any situation. I have been cheated on in the past. I know the signs. I am also surprised that she said yes. Two thoughts about that though. First, big difference between saying yes and sucking some other dude off while im watching. Lol i mean that whole scene sounds absurd. Two im taking it as a testament to how strong our relationship is that she would even entertain the idea.

Cool bro... glad you're so comfortable in your relationship, sounds like ypu've got yourself a happy marriage.

[A.tab]

Let fantasies be fantasies..

Reality, you can't handle it..

Majesty you made the correct decision....

[PlanetHendrix]

Let fantasies be fantasies..

Reality, you can't handle it..

Majesty you made the correct decision....

I am not sure that anyone can really handle that moment when fantasy becomes reality. It never really ends up being what you expected.

[J3scribe]

Drifting into the realm of supposition....


I wonder which of your/hers female friends she would've considered including in a menage a trois? Or maybe even a perfect stranger, but a pro. The fact that she said she'd prefer a woman piqued my interest more than the folly that you put forth in the first place. Perhaps she's been considering this [in fantasy] more than you realize in the first place.

[Big Bamboo!]

I am not sure that anyone can really handle that moment when fantasy becomes reality. It never really ends up being what you expected.

That I can agree with...
If serious love is invovled Emotion will always get in the way ...
You may well see your wife sucking some guy off but what if she enjoys doing it a little to much... ?
What if she comes a little to hard ? Would you be able to keep your thoughts to yourself during a argument .. . .?
It unlocks way to many emotions for me. It's fine doing that stuff with someone your just seeing but someone you love no way... I found that out the hard way..

[Majesty9917]

It seems that you are all on the same page. We all agree that its a bad idea. Thanks everyone. I knew it was the right choice to not pursue this any further. Just wanted some extra opinions and you guys came through for me like i had hoped you would. I especially appreciate your concern for me being hurt.

Drifting into the realm of supposition....


I wonder which of your/hers female friends she would've considered including in a menage a trois? Or maybe even a perfect stranger, but a pro. The fact that she said she'd prefer a woman piqued my interest more than the folly that you put forth in the first place. Perhaps she's been considering this [in fantasy] more than you realize in the first place.

I see where you're going with this you sly dog Seriously tho, it would have been someone we dont know. Unfortunately, or fortunately, depending on your preference, the impression i got was that she wanted a girl much more for the reason of not having some strange cock in her. Not so much because she would enjoy a female more than a guy.